Justin Bieber Inspired...

Justin Bieber...
he doesn't need to impress the recording academy...people know how beyond successful he's become...
but do I have a new found admiration for the Beebs...

INSERT: the Grammy's
I had a new found respect for Justin Bieber when I saw him interviewed with Esperanza Spalding, and he genuinely told her how happy he was for her and that he liked her hair!

that is exactly why we shouldn't look for man's approval...
yes it may be nice to have a grammy to prove that  a group of people voted for you...
it may be nice to win an award for something
have a whole shelf full of trophy's or medals...
tons of people that have voted, chosen, or selected you to be the best...


but in the end..it was all just some other person's opinion...

I don't want to live in the shadows of opinions...trying to peek out once someone has "APPROVED of ME"...I don't want to live in the seeking of approval...
because then you are just IMPRISONED to IMPRESS...
or like so many people you see in Hollywood..trying so hard to look successful, skinny, wealthy, younger than young, beautiful...or shocking...

we could spend our whole lives being a prisoner to impress people...or we can be free to say...
I know the truth in my heart...

I want you to tell yourself, right now...
I know I am talented.....I don't need someone to tell me
I know I am unique and special and am priceless...and no award needs to be given for that
I know I have things to share with the world that only I can do, create, be, design, sing, or show
Man may give out awards that can be lost, stolen or broken...
but something that can never be taken away or lost...
is knowing how special you are in your heart!

You don't need to IMPRESS anyone....live for an AUDIENCE of ONE!

I am cheering you on...and give you the award of freedom!
FREE to be you, the most amazing you, that doesn't need anyone's approval to tell you how incredible you are....you just are AMAZING...without doing a thing!!

huge love and freedom to be you, just how you are....your friend, kandee

I love you...and believe in all your dreams!

Love....not just today but everyday
everyone needs to hear that they are loved...

I may not be able to send you chocolates through the computer...but I can do better than than..
I can send you love..from my little heart to yours!

no matter how your life or Valentine's day feels...
no matter how lonely, sad, or hurting you may feel...

It doesn't matter if you have a Valentine...or have been hurt by a Valentine (ha ha ha)....
I want you to know that sometimes the greatest love you can find...
sure isn't from the "special someone" that will bring you flowers or chocolates...
I have gotten more love filled presents from my sister or one of my friends...ha ha ha

I am sending you huge amounts of love...
and treat yourself to a chocolate, a cupcake, or even buy yourself some beautiful flowers...

love is coming at you through this computer....


i made this video to pour some love into your heart and encourage you to go after each and every one of your dreams....
huger than huge love.....your friend sending you hugs through the computer, kandee

How to grow happiness and saturday morning with Kandeeeeee!

this is the look of happiness even in though my body feels more like "Sleepless in Seattle"...except that I'm no where near Seattle! ha ha ha

My random thoughts on tv right now: since I've watched more tv since I'm awake all night with baby, than I think I have in years...I am now fully caught up on on "reality-ness"...and man, I have to say...tv seems to like to enjoy to showing how awful, rude, and mean people can be...
it's almost like the worse people are the more popular the show is! this is so sad...and makes me feel awful seeing people being so mean and rude.
there should be a channel that shows fun, positive, nice people...that can still be cool and hip and stylish, but just nice and kind to other people...something that makes you feel better after you've watched it!

Here's some wise words everyone should have taped on their mirror (ha ha ha):
Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.

imagine how great our days would be if everyone we talked to said kind, inspiring things....and didn't say anything rude, sarcastic, or mean!?!

this is a dare...or rather this is our mission, if you choose to accept it:

today (go crazy..make it everyday)...stop yourself when you start to say anything that isn't positive, kind, or anything slightly gossip-y....
and only say things that have a positive spin, are kind, happy and encouraging.....
watch how YOU will not only feel happier...but so will everyone that is around you!
they will leave happier for having talked to you!

so let's get out there...especially all of you because I'm not really leaving my house much with the new baby...ha ha ha...and spread some kindess...and extra "thank you so much" or "have an awesome day!"....or real compliment to brighten someone's day up!

you are wonderful and the happiness in your heart is like a flower with seeds that are waiting to be thrown all around...to grow more happiness in other people's hearts!

go our there gorgeous and shine that beauty that's inside....your friend, kandee

"You HURT my FEELINGS!"

I remember when I cut all my hair off...
I heard people say mean things about me...just based on what they thought about me..without even really knowing me...and sometimes it hurt my feelings...

 Feelings are WAY too fragile to let them run our happiness or sadness factor!

Feelings can be hurt if someone looks at us funny, something is said in a "not-nice" tone, someone is rude to us, someone shows us one of their fingers pointing up to the sky in traffic...
or maybe you live with someone who slings hurtful things at you, tears you down, or gives you more attitude than a character from a reality show...
maybe you work with someone mean...go to school and deal with bullies and mean people who not only say hurtful things, but make up things about you that aren't true...
maybe you can't help it that you have family members that are not the nicest! ha ha ha

I HAVE GOOD NEWS!

You are not what you FEEL....

You are what you THINK and KNOW!

You are wonderful....unique, there is no one else like you in the whole world...

and you are loved beyond all that you can imagine!

(if no one else has told you enough to day.....please hear me say, "I LOVE YOU! And I believe in all that you want to be!")

We can NOT be ruled by our feelings! Feelings are too sensitive! ha ha ha

sometimes we wake up and might not feel like going to work or school...

BUT you can't just go with your feeling!

sometimes we feel like just eating ice cream instead of dinner...

but that feeling is not the best decision for our health!

ha ha ha

sometimes we don't feel like cleaning....

but if we don't we'll have a big mess on our hands!

we can't go around letting our feelings rule...

let other people rule our feelings by letting them effect us.

Sometimes I have felt like giving up on something that was seeming to be too hard...

but you know what...???

I said, "Nope! This feeling of hopelessness is not going to rule me...

I may FEEL hopeless...BUT I'm GONNA TAKE hold of my thoughts....and say, "No, we are hope filled!" I don't care how bad things look!

Don't let anyone tell you, you are anything less than AMAZING...nothing SHORT of INCREDIBLE,

and no one has SEEN the awesome things that you ARE GOING TO  DO in this LIFETIME!

I don't care hold old you are, where you live, what you look like, how you dress, or what anyone..a doctor, teacher, friend, enemy, family member, boyfriend or girlfriend, husband or wife or even a stranger has told you!

Our feelings would tell us:

"well since they did that to me....I'm gonna do this to them!"

that is not working or acting in love....

God would tell us...

"especially because they did that to you, you need to show them even more love"

and that is what not following our feelings can do!

You showed me hate....and I'll show you love!

CHOOSE to BE WHAT YOU THINK...

(and start right now in this second to START thinking GREAT thoughts about yourself and your future!)

NOT WHAT YOU FEEL 

OR

HAVE BEEN MADE TO FEEL...

Feelings are like the wind..they change before you even figure out which way they are blowing...

instead...be the sun that you know is constantly shining, even if it's hidden behind the clouds...

it's still there shining brightly!

love and less feelings...more bright, sparkling thinking,

your friend, kandee

Don't Stop Believing

 Sometimes I go to type a blog and I wonder if people will like it..or if they'll ever come back to read my blog..."was it interesting enough"...."maybe I should've blogged about a lipgloss instead"...."maybe that will make no one want to come back and read my blog tomorrow".....ha ha ha

I hope this post goes out to someone who's heart needs to hear this today.

"no one knows the sadness in our hearts except for God..."

I think it's so funny whenever someone tells me that they think I have this "perfect" life...ha ha ha
My life is so far from perfect...it's funny.
My heart breaks for the imperfections in my life...
that I'm divorced...that my kids won't grow up like I did...always knowing the stability of "home"...
my heart aches so much...when the kids have to go visit their dad...it feels like their little world feels so "unpredictable"....my world feels like a huge hole is missing from my heart when they're not with me...
and it's so hard...
hot tears are filling up my eyes as I try to type this..oh the tears make it so blurry I can't really see the keyboard.....

My life is so far from perfect...it is full of hurts, wounds, and scars...
I know what it feels like to have an aching heart...to feel all alone...to feel like your life is so far from perfect or anywhere near it...that you just want to cry until you have nothing left to cry...that you are in the deep, deep depths of a valley...far from the happy mountain tops!

Please know...that you are not alone. Whatever hurts or scars you have...that is the beauty. The strength that says...I WILL NOT let this defeat me. I won't let anyone ruin my heart. I will make this life beautiful...no matter what gets thrown at me....no matter what things may seem like mountains in my path... I will find away through it.

No one's life is perfect...no one is just happy on the mountain tops all the time. We all have valleys, with low moments of hurt and pain (that's just life)...but it's in those moments of low-ness, when are true character comes out...when God hopes that we will come running to him, for him to hold us and be what are hearts are longing for.

Most often...what seems IMPOSSIBLE...is just something that's never been done before. My life has been filled with things that I thought seemed "impossible" to me...
they probably were impossible...but with God ALL things are possible...
joy in times of sadness...peace when everything should feel like chaos...
I may have tears at night...but I know that joy can always show up in the morning.
Every sunrise is a bright and shining new day...waiting with a little more hope...a little more bits of glimmering sparkles to encourage you on your way.

My heart feels sad...and no one will ever know my hurts...or your hurts...except for God...but he's there to lift those burdens from your heart and fill the holes of hurt...with his perfect love. He know the plans he has for you...plans to give you hope and a prosperous future...
hold on...you have no idea what's around the corner in your future....
KEEP HOPE ALIVE....HOPE is what pulls us through....you need the seed of hope to grow that dream to become real!

BELIEVE it...that's the first step.

HOPE for it...and don't stop...second step.

KEEP ON BELIEVING....and never stop...the moment you stop believing...you end the oxygen to your dreams!

 this was typed with so much love that I hope you can feel it...
sending you so much hope and love right now....your kandee